Stan Collymore is currently whining on twitter about being held accountable for domestic violence. Apparently, it’s totally unfair for him to held accountable for viciously assaulting then partner Ulrika Johnson when people give Roman Polanski, Charlie Sheen and John Lennon a free pass.
Collymore’s solution? well, it’s clearly not to take personal responsibility for the crime he committed. Instead, he’s gone with calling people hypocrites:
He’s also come up with this genius solution :
Because no one has ever written about the hypocrisy of our woman-hating culture and it’s complete refusal to take violence against women and children seriously. Or, the fact that our culture thinks male celebrities should be forgiven for any violence they commit if they are “artists”.
We need to hold every single man who commits violence against women and children; not add more men to to the list of those we forgive because they make lots of money. We need to hold white male celebrities accountable for the crimes they commit.
And, honestly, is there nothing more pathetic than a man whining for being held responsible for the consequences of his actions?
Collymore belongs on the #DickheadDetox for both committing VAW and for whinging about it.
Dear Feminist Times,
I’ve been looking forward to today for months. I had such high hopes about your publication: a feminist magazine with no advertising is just brilliant. Feminist presses like Jezebel only serve to reinforce a heteronormative, victimblaming, celebrity obsessed culture. I was hoping you would be more like Trouble & Strife or Feminist Current than the Daily Mail.
Words cannot express just how disappointed I feel about the article in Taboo Corner entitled Sterilise Her. Forced or coerced sterilisation, even coercing someone into using long-active reversible contraceptives are not feminist acts.
It is women-hating at it’s most extreme.
It’s the violent, abusive destruction of women’s bodily integrity and their right to personal autonomy.
It privileges men’s right to fuck whoever they want, whenever they want without consequence. It reinforces a heteronormative, PIV focused construction of sexuality which privileges male orgasm over women’s health and reproductive freedom.
This is without getting into the long history of forced sterilisation of women deemed “bad” from the forced sterilisation of “asocial” and disabled women in Nazi Germany to the mass sterilisations of “bad” women in California, Switzerland, Canada and every other country in the world. The forcible sterilisation of “bad” women has a long history and anyone who doesn’t know this is either stupid or an MRE.
Publishing an article on forced sterilisation is a disgrace to feminism.
The anonymous author claims they have come to this position due to a family member who “decided to neglect (their) child” which resulted in the child being taken into care. The author claims to understand that “sometimes people have problems of their own that need to be addressed” but this is clearly bullshit. Anyone who truly understands the reasons that mothers struggle with caring for their children would not write this:
Does the mother seek help? Want to get her child back and earn the right to be called her mother and look after her? No she doesn’t.
Instead she continues to sleep about with men, picks an ex convict, gets pregnant again and surprise surprise the cycle continues.
Where is the child’s father in this story? What about his responsibility to care for the child? Was the child conceived in rape? Is that why the father doesn’t appear in this narrative or is it simply just more evidence of woman-hating. Ignoring the father and blaming the mother is victim-blaming. It’s just patriarchal behaviour.
How does this author know the mother hasn’t sought help? That she doesn’t want her child back? That her self-harming behaviour doesn’t stem from serious trauma? For a child to be taken into permanent care, the mother must have exhibited serious self-harming behaviour such as substance misuse which made her unable to care appropriately for the child.
Anyone with the slightest knowledge of child protection knows that there are simply no real programs to help women who are self-harming due to trauma. There were very few under the Labour government and those which existed have been destroyed by the ConDems. Waiting lists for substance misuse programs are immense and that’s even if you can find one that allows you to bring your child with you. Poverty is systemic now. Men are allowed to financially abuse their children without punishment but women are shamed and publicly humiliated for their failure.
Forced sterilisation and coercive/ forced birth control are not a taboo. It happens every single day to women deemed unfit or bad or stupid. It happens every single day to teenage girls deemed promiscuous without any attempt at analysing why these young girls are having sex [or even if they are being groomed and prostituted].
There a million reasons why a woman could not personally care for her child and they all come down a culture which hates women.
Forcible sterilisation and coercive use of birth control are part of the spectrum of violence against women. A real feminist would understand this.
They would not have published something more in keeping with the Daily Mail.
UPDATE: There seem to be some problem with the Feminist Times website. This is a screen cap I took:
UPDATE 2: Feminist Times have removed the piece and apologised. Before apologising and removing they added this statement:
Taboo Corner is a small space on Feminist Times for women to be open about uncomfortable thoughts they have and the personal reasons behind them, helping uncover disconcerting female truths that are normally repressed and opening them up for honest debate. Feminist Times is different to other magazines in that it won’t airbrush your frown lines or your emotions
I’ve just read your latest update on feminism in the Guardian. I think you might be a little bit confused about the term feminism. I understand that some poor schmuck responsible for your public relations had a bit of a panic attack on the weekend when you declined the label feminist but claimed you support equal rights. I would have fell off my chair laughing and been sent home for the day to calm down if you had said that to my face but I can see how someone in public relations might want to run about shrieking “call yourself a feminist”.
After all, the past few months have seen a prosecutor and a judge label a 13 year old victim of sexual violence a sexual predator in her own assault. We’ve seen horrendous and malicious attacks in the media on the child who brought forward the complaint of rape against Michael Le Vell. We’ve had several trials of large gangs of men who groomed vulnerable young girls and repeatedly raped and sold them for prostitution, whilst those responsible for protecting the girls blamed them.
In the past two months, how many women have been raped in the UK? How many have experienced domestic violence? How many have been murdered by violent men?
I can see that you want to call yourself a feminist so that women might forget that your government is responsible for the destruction of the NHS and the welfare state bringing about cuts that disproportionately effect women. Your government is responsible for putting millions of children in poverty by destroying the child maintenance program all the while rewarding men who refuse to financially support their children by giving them a tax break if they get remarried.
I can see that someone in your public relations office might have responded to your comment this weekend with something like “oh, if you call yourself a feminist maybe women will be so stupid they will forget everything you’ve done to destroy women in the past two years”.
May I suggest you fire your public relations team. They are clearly dingbats.
Women won’t forget that you have deliberately and maliciously forced hundreds of thousands of women into poverty.
You are not a feminist. Feminists campaign for the full liberation of women from the capitalist-patriarchy; a system which only benefits rich, white men. You don’t give a shit about women or children. You only care about rich white dudes.
You are not a feminist. You are a woman-hating arsenugget.