In Defence of Megan Fox.

Until today, the only thing I knew about Megan Fox was that she starred in the first two Transformer movies and that she may or may not have been fired from the third for calling the director Micheal Bay a misogynist. It’s hard to say if she walked or was fired as Fox is keeping a dignified silence whilst Bay, and her former co-star Shia LeBoeuf, are bad-mouthing her at every opportunity. Whatever actually happened, Fox is clearly a better person than either Bay or LeBoeuf; although that isn’t the best compliment since I’ve eaten carrots that had more empathy than Bay. Suffice it to say, I’m on Team Fox.

Today, I learned that Fox is now married and has a very new baby. 

I learned about Fox’s new baby from an op-ed piece in the Independent which effectively accuses Fox, but not her husband, of child neglect for hiring a night nurse. I have no idea who the writer Susan Elkin actually is, above her very basic biography attached to the article, but it’s been a while since I’ve read a piece written by a woman who so clearly hates other women. 

Because, there is no excuse for what Elkin has written. 

There is no excuse for the Independent to have published the op-ed piece. 

But, you know what, I would like to thank Megan Fox for publicly acknowledging that she has hired a night nurse. 

Because what really pisses me off is the culture of “motherhood” that requires “celebrity” women to pretend that they do everything all by themselves after having a baby. That is what is harmful to all women: the idea that a woman who has just given birth must immediately lose all their baby weight, baking 250 cupcakes for the school fete, going back to work full-time at 6 weeks whilst simultaneously looking immaculate in their immaculate house. Celebrity women who try to exist outside this narrow and punitive construction of mother are punished by the likes of Perez Hilton calling them fat and Hello mag making snide remarks about their lack of make-up.

So, power to Megan Fox for being honest about something that was going to result in her being bullied. How freaking brave is she?

And, that shit about whether or not Fox breastfeeds, well that’s none of our business. The culture which pushes formula feeding unnecessarily onto new mothers and which sexualises women’s breasts to the point that women can not breastfeed publicly without feeling uncomfortable is the problem. The culture which believes that women’s bodies belong to their husbands and that a man’s rights to access his possession’s breasts are more important than a new infant is the problem. The culture which defines any woman who has given birth  as unfuckable until they lose all their “baby weight” is the problem. That is what we need to address.

We won’t create a breast-feeding friendly culture when women write shit like this:

Babies are born to women – whether some feminists like it or not and wish it otherwise – and nature provides the baby’s food in the form of breast milk. That milk, and suckling it from the mother’s breast, is the child’s entitlement. Direct access to its mother’s breast milk is, in my book, every child’s human right. 

That doesn’t mean extracting it with a pump and handing it over to someone else to pour into the child either. It means proper tactile feeding from the breast and all the bonding which goes with that. Everyone knows that there is nothing better than breast milk for a baby’s health and, there are benefits for the mother too – not least, it is much easier to lose the baby weight if you breast feed than if you don’t. It is also considerable less hassle – at a time when you’re tired and maybe stressed – than fiddling about with bottles which have to be sterilised. And you have it with you, on tap as it were, wherever you and the child happen to be. 

If you hire a night nurse the child may be losing out on part of this and I regard that as a form of neglect.

Now, I get that Elkin is clearly trying to flog some book that no one actually wants to read but, unless you are actually stupid, no one would think the above was going to increase the number of women breastfeeding exclusively for 6 months. It just isn’t. All it does is make women feel like failures if they don’t. As for the hyperbole of child neglect, well, I’d suggest that Elkin wasn’t the most effective teacher on the planet if that’s her definition of child neglect.

Plus, Elkin doesn’t actually understand the mechanics of breast-feeding. It’s not the breast-feeding which changes the shape of women’s breasts. That’s the result of the weight gain during pregnancy and the subsequent loss of weight thereafter. Not breastfeeding will do nothing to prevent a woman’s breasts from changing. Pregnancy changes women’s breasts.

And women shouldn’t be policing other women’s bodies. We should be standing up for other women being forced by Patriarchal structures into making “choices” they do no want for fear of reprisal. 

In many ways, this article is just spiteful. It’s just the kind of spiteful that the Patriarchy loves: pitting women against women. Normally, I’d veer on the side of ignoring, however insulting a woman who has just given birth and making her personally responsible for the decisions of a thousand other women isn’t kind. 

Megan Fox may be a very privileged woman but she is still a woman. She doesn’t deserve this kind of treatment. 

Megan Fox is just a woman trying to survive in the Patriarchy; just like the rest of us. 

7 thoughts on “In Defence of Megan Fox.”

  1. Excellent as usual. Team Fox, Team United Against The Patriarchy And Fuck Your Divide and Conquer Shit, Mister Man.

    Women like Elkin fulfil a headache-inducing double role of patriarchal henchwoman and victim, so fuck her and her ilk for now too, because they should not be given a voice while the truth has little public attention.

    Her line about constant access to the mother’s body being every child’s human right is outright sickening. It denies the woman’s human right to decide over her body at all times as long as it isn’t actively hurting anyone. Leaving away something good is not the same as adding something bad. No, really, fuck that woman, she is no sister of mine.

  2. “fuck that woman, she is no sister of mine

    I beg to differ, in that she is caught in the patriarchy and is not willing to sing from a female hymn sheet but one that pleases her man. She’s my sister and I don’t care what she says or does.

    She is to be pitied rather than ‘fucked’. Being fucked? Patriarchial much. Are you serious?

    1. Yes, my thought exactly, so much hatred. Also deeply ironic that this comes from a twitter account that declares it’s against all violence in the strap-line. If “fuck that woman” wasn’t verbal violence in this case I don’t know what is

  3. This remind’s me of Jessica Alba fell pregnant. It was like there were stages:

    1. Oh no! She won’t be hot any more! Stretch marks, saggy skin, etc etc.

    2. Mmmm look how nice and big her tits have gotten, can’t wait to see her breastfeed.

    3. She’s lost her looks/no one wants to fuck a mum/is she even TRYING to lose that gut??

    Every single one of these statements I distinctly remember reading on IMDB.

    Our bodies till belong to me. Apparently we still need their approval when to fall pregnant, how to dress while pregnant, how to watch our weight and most infuriating of all, spring back to pretending you belong in men’s magazines and you are not a mother ASAP. GRR!

    I swear every celebrity that’s extra famous for being stunning faces this…. Hatred. It’s almost like: How DARE you get pregnant without the permission of the men in the public?


    1. When I was researching Megan Fox to write this, I came across an article about her husband where he ‘jokingly’ thanks Reese Witherspoon for giving birth a few days before Megan because the paparazzi missed the birth of Megan’s son whilst chasing Reese about LA. That says a lot, even if he didn’t realise it.

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